When it comes to registries, you need to think about what you want, but also what you need (ain’t that the truth for more than just registries). I had this childhood vision they’d close Tiffany’s for us and we’d gallivant through the store scanning whatever we laid eyes on. Of course we need that 24k gold leaf Venetian glass vase, and why yes, we’d make use of a set of sterling silver mint julep tumblers, on special occasions. But the Internet makes things too easy and we have no business registering anywhere that even shares a wall with Tiffany’s. We knew there were some home basics we could use, but were also in the midst of planning our honeymoon and knew money would help even more. I think it makes the most sense to do a combination of both (make the moms happy, make your credit cards healthy). We decided to go with Crate & Barrel for the basics, Thankful Registry for the off-the-registry assortments, and Honeyfund for a playful way for peeps to contribute to our honeymoon. I’ve outlined them below, both pros and cons, hoping its helps!
Crate & Barrel Because, classic. I truly didn’t know which Big Girl Store was appropriate to go with (some are so expensive, some come off pretentious, some feel cheap) but Crate & Barrel has always been a classic in my eyes. We were gifted everything we needed, and didn’t need, and our house, especially our kitchen, feels so complete. A few of my favorites picks were the welcome dinner plates, edge champagne glasses and omg, our white linen sheets. There are always coupon codes or sales, and I’m pretty sure its free shipping within the registry, so you really can’t go wrong. I’m also a huge fan of CB2.
It’s the teenager with champagne taste in me.
Con: This was the first list to deplete, probably because it’s so straight forward and easy to use. Not a bad thing, but my mom kept asking me to add items, to which I responded, no! I’m not going to add things we don’t need, and we still have available items on Thankful and Honeyfund. She understood.
Thankful This was hands down my favorite. If you know me, you know I enjoy giving gifts, and I’m typically an off-the-registry kinda girl. This site was perfect for me. Collecting things for our condo, especially with my eclectic taste, doesn’t translate well with Pottery Barn, or just one store for that matter. With Thankful I was able to pull things from anywhere on the Internet – Anthro, Etsy, Australia – and I love its UI Design. These were also the most fun gifts to receive because people were able to get creative. Even if friends didn’t purchase the exact item from our registry, they had guidance to find something similar to the items we picked. For example, I registered for a cute fabric umbrella and one of my best friends/bridesmaids upgraded us to an even cuter version. I loved having the freedom to add (or subtract) items from all my endless searching.
★ A few things we registered for below ★
Con: It’s a one-time $30 fee to use, which really isn’t that bad. However, we didn’t get as many items from our list as I thought we might. I think it was a little trickier to use, as the items were pulled from all over the web, and things don’t automatically update (like if they sell out or go on sale) like they would if it was all under the same brand. Or, maybe we didn’t have enough options in different price ranges. I’d love to know your thoughts and/or feedback if you’ve ever used it!
Honeyfund Some of my mom’s friends had a hard time with this one because it’s just money, right? And I totally get that. I’m such a tangible gift-giver. But there are two main reasons, and a bunch of minireasons, why I love and recommend Honeyfund. First, lets face it: we’re young and we’re planning a wedding and SHITS expensive; we need the money! In my eyes, its so much more rewarding to get help towards your honeymoon over a sterling silver trinket IF you don’t need the trinket but could use the help. Second, its such a fun, interactive way to let your friends and family know where you are honeymooning and what you have planned. There are general categories you can add like flights and accommodations, but you can also get more detailed and highlight ‘Couple’s Massage’ or in our case, ‘Futbol Tickets’. Erik knew his friends would love to contribute to us going to a Chelsea game, and they did. And it’s so fun to see the email alerts pop up in your inbox!
Con: Honeyfund charges a percentage of the gift, which is a bummer, but its a business so I get it. There wouldn’t be a fee on cash otherwise. There is an icon you can add to Thankful that gives people the option to contribute to your Honeymoon via check or PayPal but again, that feels more like giving money than Honeyfund.
Hope this helps all you blushing brides & golden grooms. Happy registering! Here are a few things